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Authentically happy?Happiness

Posted by Kathi Rogers | Learning & Development Consultant on 31 October 2019.

We live in a world where social media is part of every-day life and showing others how we are “living our best lives” has become the norm. The power of social media has an influence on what we define as “perfect”, and this includes great light conditions, a stunning backdrop and a few filters.

Rewind the clock a couple of decades and enjoyment came from sharing real experiences, great conversations and connection. So, let’s consider this question for a moment – “How much authentic, lasting happiness have you experienced so far this year?”

While receiving a 'like' or a positive comment on a photo may have been a fleetingly happy moment, does it really create happiness that lasts? Typically, extrinsic triggers for happiness don’t last as long as those which arise intrinsically. In other words, when others are the source of a ‘happy response’, we enjoy it, yet it doesn’t last as long as when we create it for ourselves. What makes us deeply happy has less to do with receiving smiley faces, likes, gifts or money. Lasting happiness has more to do with our outlook on life and relationships with other people.

Action for Happiness is a movement of people from all walks of life who are taking action in their personal lives, communities, workplaces and schools to create a happier and more caring society.

Action for Happiness has identified 10 steps we can take to achieve happier living, all based on the latest scientific evidence. These are simple actions, that when taken consistently lead people to happier and more satisfying lives. Ask yourself the question for each key to happiness to see whether you have opportunities to grow your happiness quotient!

Remember the acronym  G.R.E.A.T  D.R.E.A.M.

Giving:

Do things for others. Helping other people is not only good for them, it’s good for us too. What have you recently done to make someone happy or to help others?

Relating:

Connect with people. People with stronger relationships are healthier, happier and live longer. What helps you stay close to the people that really matter?

Exercising:

Taking care of your body. Being active makes us happier as well as being good for our physical health. Which ways of being active and healthy do you really enjoy?

Appreciating:

Notice the world around you. Learning to be more mindful and aware does wonders for our well-being. What do you notice and appreciate right now?

Trying out:

Keep learning new things. Learning affects our wellbeing in lots of positive ways. What have you learnt or tried out for the first time recently?

Direction:

Have goals to look forward to.Choosing meaningful but realistic goals gives our lives direction and brings a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction when we achieve them. What is your most important goal over the next six months?

Resilience:

Find ways to bounce back. We cannot choose what happens to us, but we can choose how we react to what happens. What has helped you bounce back from difficult times before?

Emotion:

Take a positive approach. Positive emotions like joy, gratitude and inspiration, don’t just feel good when we experience them, they also help us perform better, increase our resilience and improve our physical health. What good things have happened in your life recently?

Acceptance:

Be comfortable with who you are. Learning to accept ourselves, and being kinder to ourselves when things go wrong, increases our enjoyment of life, our resilience and our well being. What are your greatest strengths or hidden talents?

Meaning:

Be part of something bigger. The answer to finding meaning and purpose in life varies for each of us but they all involve being connected to something bigger than ourselves. Which aspects of your life give you a real sense of purpose?

For more information, or to become a happiness activist, see the Action for Happiness website : https://www.actionforhappiness.org/

We at ATI-Mirage can help too! Join us for our next workshops:

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